A friend of mine is out of town visiting another friend. In a tequila fueled text messaging exchange (I will spare you the crab infested bartender who can't count as well other non PG rated stuff :) , this came up: Regret sucks! While I had to agree, I also started to think about whether I had any regrets. I do try to live my life so I don't have any regrets. I have made mistakes~who hasn't? But regrets...I decided I had very many should haves/should have nots~but only one regret.
Should have:
~always sent holiday cards
~called my Grandma more often just to talk
~kept in better contact with my siblings
~never gained all this weight
~never lost touch with my high school friends
~always changed the oil every 3000 miles ( and rotated the tires)
~bought a house
~never have ruined my credit
~been dating years ago when someone might have been remotely interested
~told someone about the man next door
~borrowed a lot less money from my parents
~finished my Bachelor Degree as soon as I finished my Associates
~been finished with my Master's Degree
~saved money for my kid's college
~not given up so easily (money wise) when Ex left
All of these things are just moments in my life I screwed up. I still have the time to fix most of them, and I can live with the ones I can't. They are not regrets. I will not think about a single one of them on the day I die...
My one regret ~the one that will forever hurt me, that causes the tears I try never to cry any more to fall right now and the one I can never fix~
I have never shared the same last name as my children.
9 comments:
Regrets are for people who feel they have done something wrong.
I share many of your "should haves" and I'm sorry for your one regret. I almost cried when I read it. A quick definition of regret:
a feeling of sorrow or remorse for a fault, act, loss, disappointment, etc.
NOT NECESSARILY FOR PEOPLE WHO FEEL THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING WRONG.
DJA
That's why I luv ya!!!f
Regret is for people whom have holes in their past left to fill. Forgiving ones self is a very important start to filling the voids.
Ya know, i've been lookin at this one for a while now. i understand what you're saying but need to tell you this. I have three kids. two "step" and one biological. The two older ones do not have my last name yet if asked they will swear till the day they die that i am their Father. No if's and's or but's about it. For me, that's all i've ever needed to hear.
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